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Decisiveness
Here you will find background information and an extremely effective approach to dissolving the blockages of decisiveness.
Treating causes instead of symptoms!
Decisiveness Definition
Making decisions or implementing something you have decided to do always requires a little or sometimes a lot of determination. We have to show more willpower and courage when we have to overcome obstacles, i.e. circumstances and aspects that speak against the planned action or decision.
If you feel blocked in your decisiveness, there are usually one or more fears behind it. We want to show you here how you can find out for yourself which fears are blocking your decisiveness and how you can treat these fears. This will enable you to free yourself from these blockages in a profound way. And then the decisions, or the decision-making process , will flow freely and no longer be blocked.
You have probably already had doubts or even fears about a decision that was not so easy to make. Our decisiveness can indeed be clouded by uncertainties and ambivalence. On the other hand, it is at its strongest when we are curious and optimistic. Then we are able to make spontaneous or even exhilarated decisions. Sometimes this comes so easily from the gut that you hardly notice it.
But if we are too cerebral when making decisions and ponder for a long time or even hope that things will work themselves out, then fears may play a role.
Determination effects
Decisiveness effects
If it is difficult to make decisions, if the decision-making process is blocked, then this process does not flow, or only barely flows. Instead of flowing freely, everything becomes mental.
If you feel restricted in your decision-making power, you inevitably become passive. For example, you find yourself in a situation that is not good for you. But you are not in a position to do anything about it yourself.
If we make a decision, it usually also involves expressing our opinion and possibly defending our point of view to critics. This requires a certain degree of self-confidence, especially when it takes place in a professional context. But an extraordinary decision also demands a certain degree of autonomy from our own family and trusted friends.
The sticking point is often the (unconscious) fear of the consequences and changes that go hand in hand with a decision, which can cause our resolve to waver. Perhaps you have already started a project and then the actionism has faded away again? Doubt and hesitation are typical symptoms of unstable decisiveness. Because making a decision is one thing, but starting, continuing and sticking to it requires new commitments “for it” again and again. Repeated questioning and rethinking, however, stand in the way of this. Delaying decisions and procrastinating, even waiting to see if something comes about on its own or is resolved, are various strategies to avoid having to make decisions. And they lead us straight into merely reacting instead of actively shaping our own lives.
Those affected by decision-making difficulties are often met with a lack of understanding. Constantly waiting for a decision makes relatives impatient. Sometimes they prefer to make the decisions themselves. However, this does not always spare the person concerned their suffering. If someone is pressured or persuaded to make a decision, this creates enormous pressure that leads to deep feelings of despair. No matter what the ad hoc decision looks like, the person concerned will not be satisfied. Behind this lies the high expectation of always having to make the perfect decision – which, however, does not exist.
Every decision ties up resources that are not available for other things. After all, we can’t divide ourselves into four and our lifetime is limited. The fear of making the wrong decision can then lead to not making a decision at all. But this is also a choice that you have made. However, what happens then is not actively brought about. Nevertheless, the consequences must be endured and responsibility taken for them.
Depending on the background to the blockade and the context in which a lack of decisiveness becomes apparent, it can lead to feelings of being at the mercy of others or being overwhelmed by the many possibilities. Unless the lack of decisiveness lies in wanting to keep all doors open. Then it is a tactical move, but one that also involves fear of decisions, their consequences and the responsibility for them. Clarity and confidence are needed. However, the fear of not being able to deal with the negative consequences of a decision and simply being overwhelmed by them dominates.
Determination causes
Determination causes
Numerous factors can inhibit decisiveness, such as unanswered questions, various expectations, hopes or doubts. Blockages are a typical sign of repressed fears. If you are afraid of criticism, it is precisely this fear that is blocked, i.e. you have problems (because you are blocked) in facing criticism. Someone who is afraid of closeness has precisely such experiences with closeness blocked. Fears block, that is one of the main effects and this is exactly what happens with fears that block decisions. So if the power of decision is blocked, then the decision does not flow freely, not naturally. This means you end up in a convoluted situation, you think and think and don’t come to a decision.
Fears usually come from early childhood and should be treated.
If we experienced negative consequences at home, such as rejection or punishment, if we made wrong decisions (perhaps only in our own eyes), then this shapes us for the rest of our lives. As humans are social beings, we find rejection extremely unpleasant. We don’t want to be rejected or feel ostracized. We therefore anxiously avoid everything that we have learned to associate with it, such as making our own decisions. However, this usually remains hidden(repressed) in the unconscious.
If we were not able to experience what it is like to be allowed to make our own decisions and deal with the responsibility and consequences as children, we will also find it difficult to be decisive as adults. We first have to discover our decisiveness and self-confidence in our decisions. And this is exactly what we want to show you here, how you can specify your fear and then treat it.
Difficulties with decisions can be caused by the fear of making mistakes. Some people are afraid of not being able to assess the consequences. And negative consequences and their significance are often dramatically overestimated.
Another point that leads to a lack of decisiveness is the fear of the responsibility that comes with every self-imposed decision.
Treat decisiveness
As blocked decisiveness can be caused by several fears and we cannot know exactly which fear is blocking it, we offer a quick and effective solution here. You will find a blue circle at the bottom right of the screen. This is the fear test.
Fear test / determination test
This test quickly (within a few seconds) checks for (repressed) fears. You can simply start with the following fears. You take a fear from the following list and enter it into the fear test in exactly the same way. If the test shows that you don’t have the fear in you, then take the next fear from the list and test yourself with it. Keep doing this until you have found a fear within you. If you have found a fear, congratulations, you now know which fear is blocking your determination.
You can then treat this fear with the “Dissolve Fear” app, for example. This has the advantage that it treats without confronting the fear (!). Furthermore, the methods are so simple that you can do them alone from the comfort of your own home. In addition, the app treats thoroughly in the sense that it completely resolves and also treats the negative cognition (nK) associated with the anxiety. The “Dissolve Anxiety” app is for Android and iOS and is available in the AppStores. The link can be found a little further down on this page.
If you have successfully treated the anxiety with the app, then take a look at your life to see if your resolve is still blocked. If it is better, but still not completely free-flowing, then take the next fear off the list and treat the next fear. This is because it is possible that phenomena such as decisiveness have several underlying fears.
But if you resolve all the fears on the list, you will no longer have any problems with decisiveness. That’s a promise!
Instead of spending a lifetime fighting our fears (consciously or unconsciously), you will resolve them thoroughly in a fraction of the time!
Good luck!
– Fear of decisions
– Fear of making the wrong decisions
– Fear of making decisions
– Fear of responsibility
– Fear of making mistakes
– Fear of consequences
– Fear of change
– the fear of punishment
and to go as far as you would never have dreamed possible.“
Paul Gauguin (1848-1903), French painter, co-founder of Synthetism and pioneer of Expressionism
Fear Therapy
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Effective content and techniques for treating fears/anxiety.
Thoroughly dissolve any fear, including the associated negative cognition/belief!
No direct confrontation (exposure) with the fear!
Also deals with individual cognitions and all other emotions such as shame, sadness, hate, anger, etc.
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